I have a friend Rach, who I met a few years ago at college who at first professed herself to be Bisexual - She had a boyfriend at the time.
Then she's professed herself to be Lesbian. She's dated boys but couldn't love them, or feel as sexually attracted to them but liked G-spot penetration- She had a girlfriend for a while.
Now from being a complete Lesbian she started seeing my first ever boyfriend Matt, after I introduced them. Though he really liked her, and I warned her to be careful, she just wanted to be wanted and to have sex. Unfortunately he couldn't quite get erect enough for sex (same problem occurred a few times when I was seeing him 3 years ago when he messed me around....)
She ended up hurting him, as she told me she'd told him straight it was a fling, but looking at the texts and e-mails she'd sent him they were not obvious:
They said "I'm not ready for full committment with you yet as I've just got out of a relationship and don't want to feel trapped and hurt you, but I really enjoy being with you and really like you, and I think we'd have what it takes i the future..."
Yeah, really sounds like she was only wanting a fling.
Maybe she was doing in consciously to feel wanted, maybe unconsciously, but behind it all is her need to be wanted and loved.
Then she started seeing another girl behind his back and then became her girlfriend. Matt was very hurt. It didn't last very long with this girl. Matt kept looking into anything Rach said to see if there was anything there. I think he still does. She was quite mean with him at the end. I didn't like that side of her.
Now she's with one of her best friends, Lee. Goodness I just don't know hot to keep up with her. In the past year and a half she's been with or 'been in love with' 7 people at least of either gender.
I know she's younger, she's cheated on every partner she's had, and she dismisses people with a wave of her hand and a goodbye and doesn't seem to understand their pain and just finds it annoying. I find it annoying, but its her attitude I find annoying not theirs.
I still love her, as most people do, but it's just hard to go out and have every guy falling at her feet who she then breaks the hearts of. I'm not jealous of the guys falling for her, that's fine, I have my boyfriend and I wouldn't want it anyother way.
Maybe I see in her what I used to be when much younger. Maybe thats why I dislike it so much as I disliked what I was back then. Yet I was never as bad as her. Maybe I'm just a hypocrit.
We all know as soon as she goes to Uni Lee will be forgotten.....
Alexa
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Bisexuality is probably one of the least understood areas of human sexuality. The people who seem to be best at misunderstanding it are gays and straights and I will defend them because a lot of very mixed-up young people CLAIM to be bisexual as a sort of way-station to somewhere else.
A more mature approach to life in general is to NOT go through it attaching labels to yourself and/or broadcasting these in a more public way.
I'm 55 and I have had sexual relationships with both genders ...not a huge number, rarely concurrently and never simulatneously. I can tell you that being loudly and openly bisexual is not a wise or mature choice - but wisdom and maturity are not attributes found widely in the sexual goings on of people under 30.
I had a friend who let you know she was a lesbian before you found out her name ...then she had sex (for some time) with my friend Mike. I asked her how she now defined herself and she answered "Rosemary." She was growing up!